Let Go Of Controlling Your Children

30 Aug

Right from the time you are born and start growing as an individual, your parents are the two main people usually involved in your growth and development. In our initial years of development, we are highly naive and lack an understanding of the world.

While that is true, it is also necessary to recognize that each child is an individual with a way of functioning and being.

Individuality: Respecting And Nurturing of Each Child

As you might be well aware, our fingerprints are unique to us and do not match with any other human being; similarly, our personality, in its most detailed form, is also unique to us. Hence, it becomes an intricate part of the process of becoming a parent to maintain and respect the individuality of your child. Many cases and research show that ‘Unrealistic Expectations’ of the parents lead to demotivated behaviour in children and feelings of underconfidence.

A better way to counteract the said demotivation- is to let the child freely explore their areas of interest and liking.

Balancing ‘Guidance’ With ‘Freedom’ For Children

Safe Learning

Since children are always curious to explore, it becomes your responsibility as parents to ensure a safe learning environment that promotes healthy learning habits in your children.

As parents, out of concern for your child’s safety and security, you tend to block them from exploring, restricting them from discovering their view of the world to the fullest. Along with that, parents fail to explain ‘Why?’ rather than simply telling them no. For a child to grow its own individuality, it needs to be guided to understand the difference between right and wrong and pain and pleasure.

Let Your Children Be Curious

Culminating an environment where children can satisfy their curiosity by asking questions and also reviewing their actions when you, as a parent, discipline them for wrongful behaviour like fighting with someone or disrespecting elders is a great way for children to grow happily while learning the principles of life.

Embracing Independence And Empowering Growth

Although a parent's internal conflict always remains in the picture, which is mainly related to the safety and security of their children, it can also be rigid with certain beliefs. Whilst it is highly acceptable to think about their safety, what also matters is to let them grow in the ways they wish and provide them with the facilities that can let them spread their wings!

Essentially, nurturing a child in their younger years and then finally letting them be without any restrictions with the right value system must be the goal of each parent. Having a relationship of effective and active communication that also provides the child with the comfort of expressing views is a must.

Let Your Child Be

Practising effective parenting that makes the child feel that their parents are there for them will enable them to express themselves freely and continue to flourish in their identity, authenticity, and individuality.

Nurturing and guiding them as a beacon of good values and letting them decide what they wish to do and pursue can be a great way of being a conscious parent.