The Invisible Chains of Self-Judgement

2 Jun

Self judgement looking in mirror at self

You are a leader - you lead yourself and others through your words and actions. Yet, how much do you judge yourself to your detriment?

How long have I judged myself with my internal dialogue? Possibly more times than I ever praised myself. It is easier to find fault and complain about my weight, my financial situation, my health, and the problems in my relationships.

The Power Of Words

As a five-year-old, I didn't know how much power I had given to the words spoken by an infant school teacher: "Don't be stupid; you can't see ghosts."

Those words created a profound belief in my mind that I was inadequate, and they also hurt me to the core of my being. My parents had always encouraged me because of my natural psychic skills, yet my teacher disbelieved me.

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The Beliefs We Hold

You may have experienced something similar. A single comment or incident might have led you to believe that you are not enough. Often, we are our harshest critics. Internally, we might continuously put ourselves down, repeating negative beliefs like, "I am useless at managing money." or, "Why would anyone listen to me?

Becoming Aware Of Self-Judgement

If you question why your life isn't as you want it to be, start by listening to what you say about yourself. Recognise the self-judgments you hold.

What words do you use to describe yourself?
What do you complain about?
Who do you compare yourself to?
Do you look in the mirror and find fault?

Does it surprise you how much negativity you express towards yourself?

Releasing Judgement

Stop and consider: If you spoke to a friend the way you talk to yourself, would you be a friend? Highly unlikely.

Then, it's time to change your behaviour towards yourself by releasing your attachment to your limiting beliefs. Judgment lingers until you actively release it from your body and mind.

4 Steps To Challenge Judgement

Communication: Starts with the words you hear from others and the words you use toward yourself and your life. Are they negative? Do they put you down? Do they constantly complain about you and what you do?

Challenge Judgments: Recognize that your judgments about yourself are often formed by how others have judged you. These judgments are not accurate reflections of your worth.

Find Your Tribe: Building lasting relationships in business and personally can be challenging due to fear of rejection and judgment. However, having a supportive tribe is essential. So, go and find your tribe.

Forgive and Let Go: Release your attachment to past events and people who contributed to your negative self-beliefs. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for freeing yourself from the chains of self-judgment.

What are your thoughts? Do you know how you communicate to yourself and what your words are from reading the above?

Did you find words that praised you? Or were they all negative?

By becoming aware of your internal dialogue and actively working to release negative beliefs, you can begin to live a life free from the shadows of past judgments. Embrace the journey towards self-acceptance and remember that you are more than enough.